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Watching the pain of others
January 21st, 2009 by Anju
The pain of others is sometimes more unbearable than the pain you have yourself, which is why often people wish they could volunteer to take on the pain of others. Parents know this pain all too well when they see their infant crying in pain.
So what can you do when you see a friend in a bad relationship? What should you do? Do you even want to get involved? It would seem that a good friend should pull the person aside if they are concerned the relationship they are in is troubling or abusive. Offering support can be important. But what if the friend is in one bad relationship after another? Do you want to be involved again, and appear to be the nag or know-it-all?
It could be that your friend could make use of counseling to see why they continue the same patterns. It may be effective to point out similarities in their behavior, or similarities in the people they choose to be with, so that they can understand more easily what you see. Because we all have the curiousity to watch a troubled relationships at times, but watching people you care about struggle is never fun. Any solutions out there for this?