Sense2Love

Forget internet dating this is online matchmaking.

Anju Rupal, the founder of sense2love.com, doesn’t mince words about GenePartner’s biggest selling point: “It’s the biological aspect. Lots of women want to have kids and don’t want to mess around waiting for the right partner to appear.”

The article below was sent to me by Peter a friend, who shares an interesting thoughts about “Independent women”, here is his perspective.

Emma’s early discussion about Independent women getting dates, but not relationships, begs the primary question: how do you define a relationship? Or maybe first, what defines you and the role you create for your relationships? In my view, there is no difference between independent men and women in terms of getting dates but not relationships.

In the movie “Jerry Maguire”, Tom Cruise wins over Renee Zellweger by pleading, if not begging, with the line “You complete me”. So, in other words, Jerry wasn’t complete, unless he had a woman, that woman, with him, and the woman he picked, and then begged, felt it was flattery to be the one who completed him.

So, with that statement, those two people felt completed, which suggests an ending of a big part of their individuality. Two people who claim to be independent but yet ask to be completed and then want to be the one who completes the other can not also claim to be independent. Jerry Maguire was offering his dependence on Dorothy Boyd as the final deal point in order to get her to agree to stay with him.

Now, if both people are the type who like dependency on each other, then completing each other is a good match. But if one, or worse, both, are going to want some level of independence, then completion of the other is not the best of scenarios.

Wouldn’t it be better for independent people to say of the one they want the most: You compliment me.

Isn’t the greatest compliment you can give to someone you care about the trust and respect to explore themselves through their independence, thereby become a fuller person for you to enjoy?
Peter Huston

I have something to admit. I have an online crush. This has been going on for months.

The ‘profile’ I am attracted to is a man I have never met, but we share interests and passions that I feel connects us at a fundamental human level. I like this guy. His Twitter updates make me giggle, his  blog posts engage me, his video voice sounds familiar, as if I’ve known him for years .

One day this guy posts that he’s single. Then the mental box I’ve put him in opens up and there’s a potentially real person inside. A guy who might also be looking for someone else to share his ‘real’ time with. All of a sudden I’m uncomfortably suspended between reality and illusion and feeling like a childish schoolgirl with a pop star crush and I don’t know what to do or how to feel.

My parents didn’t have this problem. Human encounters happened in a straight forward way, with clearly defined boundaries of social protocol. You felt something for a person when you met them and made a connection, romantic, platonic or otherwise. The internet generation is a networking dream and a curse all in one; opportunities, but too many; information, but too much; proximity but distance and no reality to draw it all together.

Unresolved questions still linger in my head about the nature of online  attraction… whether online crushes be trusted or discarded at once?  Whether it is courage or delusion that would push someone to explore and discover the human behind an online profile? And whether there is hope for single people finding other single people online other than through the safely constructed platform of online dating sites?

If you have had any similar experiences, your thoughts, feelings and suggestions would be very welcome!

Admit it – matching people based on pheromones was probably not your first thought when going to a dating site. I’m sure many people (not reading this, but in general) don’t know what pheromones are at all!!! However, think about colognes, aftershaves and perfumes. These are billion dollar businesses! And they may smell nice, but the don’t smell nice the way a cinnamon roll smells nice. Perfumes don’t smell like chocolate, or spring meadows, or new cars! They have a very distinct smell, one that is typically engineered to entice someone else’s interest. This desire, while important in the past to simply mask the week-old funk most people had before indoor plumbing, also is connected to pheromones and our reaction to someone else based on their scent. So what makes more sense when you really think about it – being connected based on naturally occurring scents we all produce, or trying to connect in a bar or club based on scents from the local department store mixed in with whiskey breath? You’ve tried the second one before, with predictable results, I’d wager. Why not try something a little more natural?

So, hopefully you’ve read the article connecting Sense2Love with Genepartner.com, and now have come to our site to learn more. If so, welcome!

Pheromones are powerful scents, even though we are not aware of them when we encounter them. We are often drawn to people who’s pheromones are compatible with us, and this can account for those attractions which make little sense to us from a logical point of view. If you’re thinking “There’s just something about him/her, but I just can’t figure out what it is,” it could be nature’s natural attractive properties at work.

Of course, once you’ve met a compatible person based on this scent, other factors start coming into play. All the rules still apply for maintaining a healthy relationship, but there may be an additional excitement and power in your lovelife due to this truly natural attraction! It’s an exciting idea to actually use the internet to match people in this manner, and I look forward to hearing testimonials from those who’ve tried this out!